Real Leaders Ask for Help


Real Leaders Ask for Help

by China 


Part of being a strong leader is asking for help. It's having enough humility and grace to know that you can't go it alone. 

We need each other. 

When everyone wakes up to their inherent power, they see that each individual is actually a self-governing leader in their own right.

One of my ways of successfully and efficiently leading myself is through the catharsis of writing...

There's so much going on in the world with the recent election and the fight our water protectors are putting up – so much. Then, yesterday came the news that some truly incredible people died at a party in Oakland, California where my partner is a community leader. My San Francisco DJ – I could count on one hand how many of his events I missed in 7 years – is close friends with some of those who passed. 

What's interesting that I noticed is some of the people who “died” (I'm going to use the word “transcended” from now on since I don't believe in death.) were truly amazing individuals.

These were the kind of people who touched everyone's lives in a positive way and would never let people play small – they would call you out on your shit. 

They believed in you. 

They brought optimism, joy, beauty, and love to humanity. 

This is the legacy they leave for all to contemplate and integrate in consciousness – myself included. 

See, I knew this time on the planet was coming. This is the moment when the rock has been turned over and everything is crawling out from underneath it. 

It's ugly. 

This has been prophesied and I have actually known about this and been preparing for this since I was a child. It's a huge part of why I have been meditating and having such a deep, profound spiritual practice all of these decades. I – and my family – have known this was on the way. 

We recently came out of an age of darkness and we have now (ever so slightly) shifted into a positive trajectory. The change is not massive, however; it will increase in our lifetime, and even more with each generation. Your children will have an easier time of it, and your children's children will have an even easier time. 

And one day - on this planet - things will be quite different than they are now. 

For now though, let's focus on the present. 

Through this dark age, people had become complacent, codependent, and not living in their joy and passion. Doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. Trying to fight fear with fear. 

So, what are the opposing forces fighting against? 

They are fighting against the rise of LOVE. 

In any moment there is only the choice between fear and love. This is within your own control - 

right now. 

Ask yourself, “What would love do next? What would love say next? What would love think next?” 

How many are actually harnessing and focusing this diligently and consistently enough to make an impact? 

Everyone is going to play their role right now. Some people are meant to be on the picket line. Others are meant to be activists for certain causes. And some are meant to hold a frequency and vibration (we can see this in our children – they are excellent anchors for Divine Energy). 

It's taken me 39 years to finally admit (and now accept) my own role. 

My first experience of crippling trauma came when I was in the womb. My Mother was 5 months pregnant when my Father did his first foul shit to us as a family (sorry Mom, if you're not wanting me to be public with this). 

I know and understand the opposite of love. 

I've seen the dark depths of hell. 


don't cry for me Argentina. 

The contrast of the darkness (absence of light) has been one of my greatest gifts, in that it's been a fantastic catalyst for transformation, which lead me to PEACE and JOY. 

At this juncture, there must be contrast in order for humanity to sound the trumpets, wake the sleepers, and bring forth LOVE. 

This is the point where collectively we say, “Enough is enough. We. Command. Love.” 

It is our birthright and inheritance. 

25+ years of a sturdy AF meditation practice says that I can NEVER be convinced otherwise. The deeper within I go, the more I know that I don't know shit. 

The only thing I am *certain* of is the power, presence, and victor of LOVE. 

The individual choice must be made (and committed to), and we must now support each other as we enter this fresh territory.  

“My life is a revolution.” - Indigemama

Who are you BEing right now?

Are you being the change? Are you being the space? Only you can truly and honestly answer this question. 

Now is the time to live in this present moment and look around and appreciate the privilege that you have. 

You have your mind, you have your life – you are ALIVE. 

Go within to know your part. And then play your TRUE role with the resilience and determination of a dog with a bone. 

This is your Legacy. 

Share it with us - NOW. 

(My role was to overcome as a mixed black woman and blaze a pathway of consciousness - hope, truth, light, and VICTORY - and to emanate that from here on out.)

The path of LOVE demands that we BE more, GIVE more, and RECEIVE more. It's the path of uncertainty and of the unknown. It's the road less traveled.

Now is the time to show and tell people that you love them.  
Now is the time to smile and extend kindness. 
Now is the time to radiate more love than you ever have before – regardless of the feedback you get from your external reality, world, and society. 

Now is the time to cease looking at external circumstances to tell you who you are – and who you choose to be. 

Things are falling apart because they are coming together.

There are other sentient, harmonious lifeforms in the galaxies and the universe, but we can't see them because we (as a collective family) aren't resonate with them (yet). However...

we are evolving into resonance. 

“Folks, it's time to evolve. That's why we're troubled. You know why our institutions are failing us, the church, the state, everything's failing? It's because, um – they're no longer relevant. We're supposed to keep evolving. Evolution did not end with us growing opposable thumbs. You do know that, right?”

― Bill Hicks

Right now, the appearance of things shows us as divided and against each other. The way out of this is to look within and ask yourself, how are you divided and against yourself? 

What do you feel like the world is withholding from you? Because whatever you feel that the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world. 

It is truly time to ask yourself not what your world can do for you, but what you can do for your planet and the beings on it.

This is also in honor of people (like those who left us in the Oakland fire) who spent their lives being a force for good. They fought in their own way – by holding onto LOVE - and so many benefited from it. 

So many lives were touched – mine included. 

Do you understand that those you love, and all that you hold dear, can disappear right now? Everything is temporary and fleeting and transitory - the people in your life and your assets - waking up tomorrow is never guaranteed. 

If you are so blessed to wake up and breathe, start by asking yourself, “What am I passionate about?”

Ask those around you – what are they passionate about? 

Spark real dialog and emanate your aligned, centered role from the inside-out. 

And dear God, ask for help. 

I believe in you.

What are you passionate about?